Domestic Violence Cycle

The domestic violence cycle is divided into four phases:

MAKING UP

CALM

TENSION BUILDING

INCIDENT

Phases 1 and 2 together are sometimes referred to as the Honeymoon Phase.

Couples enter into a relationship with high hopes and great expectations. They believe they have found the perfect partner with the potential of a long life together. It can begin with a casual meeting and grow into dating. After dating may come the plan to begin a permanent relationship. During initial dating or during the beginning of a permanent relationship, the partnership may be in a period of calm known as the Honeymoon Stage.

However, some partners are abusive and are a ticking time-bomb of violence waiting to erupt. Usually, the signs are present, but difficult to recognize until actual violence occurs. Any kind of emotional or physical abuse should be evaluated carefully.

In the domestic abuse cycle, tension builds in the tension phase, and ultimately and incident occurs in the explosion phase. There is no specific length of time for any of the phases, but they all exist in every domestic violence cycle.

The main issue to remember is that a circle has no beginning and no end unless you break the cycle.

The cycle of domestic violence is a nasty circle. The pattern will repeat itself, and the abused will not succeed in transforming the abuser into the person they once were. The physical abuse is seldom a onetime event. As time goes on, the abuse can escalate. An abused woman should seek physical and emotional help when the abuse begins to make the woman feel insecure. When the feelings of low self-esteem escalate, the woman needs to move out of the relationship. The hope of renewal is unhealthy and seldom becomes a reality. It is time to move on and seek help.

If a victim does not seek domestic violence help, the honeymoon stage will begin again with a period of making up and a period of relative calm. Then tension will build, and eventually another explosion of violence and abuse will occur.

Continue reading about the four phases of the domestic abuse cycle.

Phase 1 - MAKING UP

Phase 2 - CALM

Phase 3 - TENSION BUILDING

Phase 4 - INCIDENT

Get domestic violence help to stop the domestic violence cycle and do not let the cycle of abuse continue. It's just not worth it.