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Jan 03, 2020

Mental Injury from Domestic Violence

Maplewood There are cracks in an ordinary day that seem a gateway to safety, but they are not always what they seem when passing through. I saw one open

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Jan 03, 2020

Loving My Abuser

I was 16 when I started dating my husband. It's been 28 years, and nothing has changed so far except for the fact that every time he has different excuses

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Jan 03, 2020


Dis-A-Rae is what happens when your two choices in life are to either stay in a toxic abusive relationship or be a single parent. If you decide to leave,

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Jan 03, 2020

The Teenage Girl In Me

There is a girl inside of me ☺ I feel her so strong so young but she has never been free 😢 And all these years later I'm 39 years grown she is still here

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Jan 03, 2020

Domestic Violence - Once in Denial, Now Set Free

I hope this will help others to gain the strength to face the truth. Domestic violence is so hard to admit you are a victim of. I hope and pray as I listen

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Nov 01, 2019

A Wife on Paper

A Wife on Paper Because you hate her Respect is lost, At no cost Trust has vanished, Talk has been banished. Three whiskies and three smokes, Will no conversation

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Aug 23, 2019

"But I Thought He Loved Me"

Often a victim of domestic violence is unaware of how persuasive an abuser can be. The victim is taken by surprise when the person that they loved suddenly

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Aug 15, 2019

Wrongfully abused

Victim Arrested for Domestic Violence

I was attacked by my boyfriend he pushed me shoved me and hit me because I was yelling at him. I feared for my safety when he choked me to the point of

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Aug 04, 2019

7 Steps of Healing from Domestic Violence

Domestic violence is a heinous crime that leaves life-long effects on its victims. A crime that has its impact on both the physical and mental state of

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Dec 31, 2018

I am exposing my abuser & her son's abuser.

My (former) close friend, who is a current child care worker, canceled mine and my child's reservation because her son molested my daughter. She wanted

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Dec 31, 2018

Breathing, living moment by moment, day by day.

Your story is heard, and You are not alone!

My insides are shaking. My hands are shaking. They don’t want to push the buttons or go in the right direction. I miss hitting the right key and have to

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Dec 31, 2018

Addict in a Garden

Nothing was ever against my will, but the pain made the pain go away. This is a poem about my addiction to a narcissist... I beg for the abuse. Without

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Dec 31, 2018

An open letter to my abuser.

Dear B, I loved you with everything I had. I'm just starting off with that. Despite it all, I loved you. But unfortunately, that is often not enough.

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Dec 29, 2018

From Time to Time - Stories of Ongoing Domestic Violence

Stories of ongoing domestic violence, problems with continued love, and the difficulty with finding safety, refuge, and separation

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Dec 29, 2018

Short Stories of the Domestic Violence Cylce

Short Stories of Ongoing Domestic Violence illustrating the domestic violence cycle and how difficult it can be to leave an abusive partner

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Dec 29, 2018

Addict in a Garden

Nothing was ever against my will, but the pain made the pain go away. This is a poem about my addiction to a narcissist... I beg for the abuse. Without

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Dec 28, 2018

Red Flags

I don't know where to start. I guess I have always had a pattern of falling to relationships with emotionally abusive people. We met in college our first

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Dec 27, 2018

Surviving was worse than the domestic abuse

I was 13 when I began dating my boyfriend. The violence started about one year later and continued for seven years. I became so used to being mistreated

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Dec 27, 2018

Domestic Abuse in Wales. My Story.

I'm new on here but have read lots of boards, and I'm looking for some advice. It's going to be a long thread as so much has happened, but I hope someone

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Dec 25, 2018

I have a purpose and want to live - Aftermath of depression and Domestic Violence

Concerning the aftermath of depression and domestic violence, I know how powerful words can be and I hope that my words touch the lives of others. “When

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Dec 25, 2018

Surviving from NorthEast England

At the age of 16, I was in a relationship with a boy who was funny, caring, confident and attractive. I remained with him until I began talking to another

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Dec 25, 2018

The Broken Peace in Me. 'Summer of 2013'

Who's to blame, have to carry the shame? Not he nor she, nor all who could see? Guess that leaves no one... no one here but Me. She knows the where She

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Dec 23, 2018

My Husband - My Biggest Enemy Part 1

I'm a 34-year-old Indian girl from South Africa. I thought if I loved my husband enough he would change his abusive ways. It all started when we began

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Dec 23, 2018

My Mum

My mum died in 2015 peacefully in her sleep, she was 40 years old and died of heart failure. For 14 years she suffered from domestic violence, and I want

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Dec 23, 2018

Abuse in Its Highest Form

I have been abused from the age of 2 by a cold, manipulative, narcissistic woman who gave birth to me. I feel you have to earn the title to be a mother.

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Dec 23, 2018

First Love

I call him my first love because I grew up having a crush on him. Our families were very close. After years of searching for love and his failed marriage,

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Dec 19, 2018

Escaping the Abuse

When I was 15, I was a victim of date rape. I never told anyone and suffered for many years in silence. When I began dating, I didn't date guys that were

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Dec 19, 2018

An Abusive Gay Man

I had a relationship with a wrestler who was undercover. He did not want people to know he was gay. We would always meet my house, and when I would go

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Dec 19, 2018

Intimidated Out of My Home at 50!

I’m in deep despair. I lived with a man who’s belittled me, my kids, thrown me out of their bedroom, threatened to break a door down to a room I was sleeping

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Dec 14, 2018

Getting Back Up

She sat and watched the clock tick, it ticked right past the hour he was supposed to be home, and then eventually it ticked past right through the three-hour

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Dec 12, 2018

Where do you get trust from now?

We went to Amsterdam for his birthday. We went to this restaurant on a Friday and were drinking with the food, and he starts acting strangely. I stopped

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Dec 07, 2018

Why I never told...

I never told because the first time he put his hands around my neck, I was in shock and afraid. Sure he had gotten in my face and screamed at me, but he

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Dec 05, 2018

Lashae Losing Battle - Still at War

It's been 15 years. We were teenagers. The first time was three months into our relationship. I was only 17 years old and did not know how to react to

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Dec 05, 2018

Constant Abuse

I'm 39yrs old. My abuse started when I was about five years old by my mom and dad. They would get into terrible arguments, and I would run and hide. I

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Dec 05, 2018

Emotional Abuse Poem

Go ahead and hit me for not listening to what you said Go ahead and cut me down until I am dead I will never be your perfect child As you put it so mild

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Dec 05, 2018

Domestic Violence Story

I never in my wildest dreams imagined I'd find myself in an abusive relationship. I came from a loving home, with models of a loving relationship. Abuse

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Dec 05, 2018

The Daughter of a Psychopath

Unlike most of you visiting this website, I’m not a direct survivor of domestic violence. The aggressor directed the abuse mostly toward my mother, but

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Dec 05, 2018

beautiful light shine bright

I have seen so many new things thru searching for explanations of what was needed by our Higher Self. I can't explain it because everybody looks at me

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Dec 04, 2018

Four Decades on - the Horrible Truth about Childhood Abuse Victims and Its Affect

Four Decades on, I'm still on the journey to try and heal myself from child abuse and domestic violence throughout adult relationships. Even after seven

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Dec 02, 2018

32 Years of Pain

My domestic violence history started in 1985. I had just married a counterintelligence agent for the Army, and we were living in Maryland by Fort Meade.

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Nov 28, 2018

Just Left My Domestic Partner

The Sooner You Go, The Sooner You Will be Happy!

Saw a post from a girl that wrote her story about her domestic violence relationship and I thought I'd share mine to help these girls that are trying to

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Nov 24, 2018

My Story by Christine

My story is too long to write in a few paragraphs, too long to write in a book. Although I still carry so much hate and anger to the man that hurt my boys

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Nov 24, 2018

My Story of emotional domestic violence with the love of my Chloe

It's only a very recent thing that I've learned I was in an abusive domestic relationship. If I'm entirely honest, I'm not sure, yet I fully accept that.

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Nov 24, 2018


My story is sort of hard to explain. Some things happened that I for one should have never accepted and excused. We were perfect until I started having

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Nov 24, 2018

Timeline of Pain - An Ongoing Issue

It started a decade ago; I was 16 going onto 17. That’s when everything changed. I said goodbye to the happy person I used to be. My mother described

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Nov 24, 2018

Abusive Marriage "Adjustment"

So I met this man through the family. We were family friends, and we knew only good things about each other's background. So we got married. It was more

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Nov 22, 2018

Love is not a game of Russian Roulette.....

Hi, I'm 30 years of age. I've been in and out of homelessness since 14-years of age. While growing up, I was not only verbally thrashed by my narc mother,

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Nov 22, 2018

His Eyes Hate Me

His eyes hate me I can feel them in my soul When he's mad he needs to hurt me Make me cry I tremble and plead, say anything It doesn't help He yells louder,

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Nov 22, 2018

When he didn't hit me I thought he stopped loving me...

So, as usual, I met a man, we were with each other for a little over two years, of course, we were not boyfriend and girlfriend, and of course, he was

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