Domestic Abuse- I hope for Inspiring Supportive Community, from K.
Looking for community as I continue to fight abuse. I don't know, this is maybe stage 3, or 4.
I was apparently poisoned, but didn't put it together until about three years ago. It started in 1996/1997. I am exhausted after 20 years. Even though divorced now, it continues through disability and Legal Abuse. These issues destroy your family, your Aunts, Uncles, Sisters, Cousins. Your Church. Your Social ability. Left abandoned, in poverty, after a Bachelors Degree, and Post Graduate work - scholarships. Good jobs. And, I spend my days working diligently to take responsibility for a situation that is not my responsibility. I work diligently to finally end the wrongful circumstances, to attempt to protect my daughter and my son, to work within a system that does not work in the Civil Court. Left without a Lawyer mostly now, it is an extreme burden that is probably unimaginable.
Not young anymore, but not really old yet.
People are so selfish and unable to respond in a compassionate way, even at church. I think much of the worst of it now is also the constant isolation. I am isolated because of taking care of all the bogus legal and system issues, and I am isolated because people don't want to befriend people. Further, I have no time or money to have a 'normal' life.
Looking for Inspiration
It would be nice to find inspiring messages or photos on a Facebook site - but I don't think one exists. I am too busy to make one for others. This area's support groups lack professionalism. Just unacceptable. There is more to abuse than the initial emergency to get away and out. We need to help rebuild lives,
and rebuild victims socially as well, with acceptance and friendships. My neighbors know of my situation for instance, and I am left isolated anyway. If you share with some groups, you become victimized. The reason is because no one wants their convenient lives disrupted.