The ousted friend
I was friends with someone who continues to be in an abusive relationship/ now marriage ...For 5 yrs I was the person she would confined in ..What she told me about her life never added up to the perfect life she displayed on Facebook.. When I finally found myself too caught up and stressed out.. I told her it was too much for me to keep her secret.
She Shut Me Out
She shut me out, and also made it become too difficult for me to remain friends with her sister and mother. Her sister knows the truth as well, but she won't speak up! So I have become the scapegoat !!
I wrote this piece ...
Before you judge me, know this, she came to me with all her troubles. It was not the weather that caused them to cancel their engagement pictures, it was his temper.
Before you judge me know this, he kicked my dog.
Before you judge me, he called her a fucking bitch and asshole and inconsiderate.
Before you judge me know this, she will call me every three months crying.
Before you judge me know this, he degrades, he's thrown a glass full of alcohol and a chair at her.
Before you judge me know this, he pins her up against the wall, held her down when she screamed out loud.
Before you judge me know this, every one of her friends have come to me with their concerns, and worried about how she's changed. Stating she always looks miserable.
Blame me and judge me all you want, I never asked for this. I knew this is how this will turn out. I even told her we were not to be friends two years after the wedding because I hold the truth.
Before you judge me, yes I know I was always the disposable one, no history with this town.
Before you judge me, realize I would never win in this situation, the friend never does.
Before you judge me, what would you do?
Before you judge me, know that I've seen him do this in front of the kids. I've watched him slam tables because he was mad and belittled her when he doesn't get his way.
Before you judge me know this, God wants the truth, God is the truth.
Before you judge the validity of this, ask my friends and my mom. I would go to them quite often because nobody wants to be in this predicament. I did my best to be her friend. I don't wish this position on anyone.
Remember this, Facebook and real life are two different lives. What goes on behind closed doors is always different than what goes on in front of the family and friends.
Before you judge me, do what you want with this information. I encourage you to educate yourself on the narcissistic personality disorder.
Because I guarantee you, this is what you're dealing with.
Good luck and God bless.